Some seasons of life feel like fog. You’re moving, but nothing feels quite right. The things that used to light you up now fall flat. The roles you once played no longer feel like home.
This is not failure. This is transition.
You’re not broken. You’re shifting. And in this space in-between who you were and who you are becoming, purpose might feel out of reach.
But it isn’t lost. It’s just waiting to be redefined.
It’s Normal to Outgrow Things
Jobs. Beliefs. Identities. Even relationships. Growth often begins with discomfort, a quiet inner nudge that something no longer fits.
According to positive psychology, purpose isn’t something we find once. It’s something we revisit and refine throughout life. As we evolve, so does what matters.
When you feel disconnected, it’s your system asking for something deeper. Not more productivity. More meaning.
Redefining What “Purpose” Really Means
We’re often sold the idea that purpose is one big, bold thing. A job title. A calling. A five-year plan.
But research in logotherapy (Viktor Frankl) shows that purpose can be found in three places:
- Through creation (what you give or build)
- Through connection (who you love or serve)
- Through courage (how you endure hardship with meaning)
Purpose can be:
- Helping someone feel seen
- Showing up when it’s hard
- Caring for your children with presence
- Speaking honestly in a relationship
- Saying no to protect your peace
Purpose is often found in who you are becoming, not what you are producing.
A Gentle Rhythm for Rediscovery
This isn’t a checklist. But if you’re looking for a starting place:
- Reflect
Ask: What feels heavy? What used to bring me joy? What needs to be released? - Notice
Track your energy. What expands you? What depletes you? Use this to guide your yes/no. - Experiment
Follow a flicker of interest. Take a walk. Take a course. Start small. - Stay Curious
There is no deadline for clarity. Some of the most meaningful shifts begin with ”I’m not sure yet.” - Keep Listening
Purpose is quiet. It often speaks in repetition, discomfort, longing. Pay attention to what keeps pulling you gently.
You Don’t Need a Map
You don’t need to leap into a new identity. You don’t need to have the whole picture.
You just need one question: What feels like the next honest step?
That might be:
- Saying no when you usually say yes
- Walking away from what drains you
- Letting yourself rest without guilt
- Telling the truth, even if your voice shakes
You don’t need to find your purpose in one grand moment. You just need to live into it, one small act of alignment at a time.
Final Thought
Feeling lost doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re evolving.
And purpose? It was never outside of you. It was in your values, your joy, your honesty, your love.
Come back to those. That’s where direction begins again.